What To Do When You Get Upset
We've all been there, right? A harmless conversation turns into a big thing and you get your feelings hurt.
Keep in mind, I'm no therapist so I can't tell YOU what to do so I can tell you what I do.
- Take a step back- I need to acknowledge the problem and look back at it from a more objective lens. In the heat of the moment I could have more feelings than I knew existed and if I don't step back, I could say something I don't mean.
- Finding my bliss- It sounds so corny but I find what will make me feel better at that exact moment. Whether it's laughing with friends at inappropriate jokes or taking a drive and blasting my favorite music while screaming the lyrics at the top of my lungs, I'm going to do it. (I would take a bubble bath but I'm not lucky enough to have one of those luxuries just yet).
- Look back at the problem- When those angry/upset tears (and you know exactly what I mean) have either sunk back into the deepest recesses of my mind or streamed down my face, I can figure out what to do to make sure that it doesn't happen again or happens less
- Don't be so hard on myself- I'm the first to admit that I'm hypercritical but that doesn't stop when it gets to me. I'm definitely very hard on myself and whatever anyone else gets from me, I get it 3x worse. I need to remember that I'm a human, too, and that I'm allowed to get my feelings hurt sometimes.
- Talk it out when I'm ready- If I'm ever ready to talk it out or if it's something that merits being talked about, I have to do it. It seems easier to just let things fade away but sometimes, friendships and relationships fade away with them. Rather than letting them disappear and accepting that I've wasted hours of developing a relationship, I would rather save it if it can be saved.
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